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#Lifes2Short To Spend It On People Who Don’t Know What They Want

Posted on March 3, 2019November 3, 2019 by Kim Carney

I came across this quote by Anna Wintour, this morning, and it really got me thinking how true this statement is.

All my life, I’ve been on both sides of this statement. At times, I have been the one with uncertainties and, more times than I’d like to admit, I’ve wasted precious time on people who were clueless as to what they really wanted.

It’s hard to move forward in a positive and successful manner, when you are surrounded by people who don’t know what they want. 

For me, especially in romantic or professional relationships, it feels like I’m giving up on people, if I don’t wait around to see what they finally decide. But, in reality, you’re letting yourself down if you wait. I’ve lost count of how many times I have invested my heart, my energy and my time in someone or something, that ended up deciding I wasn’t part of the final equation, and was left high and dry.

I’ve learned to pick myself up and start over after these heartbreaks, but I’ve had enough now. In the words of John Mayer, “anything other than yes, is no.” If people are telling you they aren’t sure what they want or their priorities change from one day to the next, they are telling you “no” – trust me on this. 

The end of last year, I took a deep-hearted inventory of my life and my relationships. I ended a personal relationship that has left me hanging for the past 10+ years, and I ended a professional relationship that has had me on the ropes for three. 

The right thing and the hardest thing are usually the same thing and this held true for the ending of these relationships. It was painful and gutwrenching. I cried tears and second-guessed myself, but in the end, I’ve remained steadfast in my decision to let those weighted “no” relationships go. And now that I’m past those decisions, the heartache is slowly disappearing and is being replaced by a joyful freedom that I’ve never experienced before.

If you have a dream and want people to respond and support it, be sure of what you want and they will come. And, on the flip side, don’t use up your valuable energy and time on people who can’t give you a passionate and unequivocal “Yes!” Move on and look for the yeses – they are everywhere!

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